How ignorant can one get? Sen. Oley Larsen confirms my political creed of anti-stupid. He thinks the victims of bullies are responsible for their victimization? Also pretty much damn determines my kid never goes to public school. Supposedly this dude is a full-time public school teacher, wow? Based on the evidence oozing from Oley's mouth, he has not really done much scholarly research into the subject of Bullying. He probably read the back of a cereal box and called it good. Sure Bullying is bad, but listening to supposed educated grown-up ooze less then educated brilliance lacking thought processes all over the media world...yea, you stay away from my kid Oley Larsen. Far away...I hear that NASA keeps finding more possibly habitable planets....try one of those. The possibility of uneducated twits teaching my child pisses me off.
Why I testified against any new bullying legislation
by Oley Larsen on Tuesday, January 25, 2011 at 3:27pmYou Are Blaming the Victim!
This is probably the most frequent criticism I get. I state unequivocally that I don't blame victims of teasing and bullying for what is happening to them because they can't possibly see how they are causing their problems. Nevertheless, some participants become enraged by my views and attack me for "blaming the victim."
How do I help victims? By holding them responsible for their problem. I reveal to them the "optical illusion" that is causing them to attract their tormentors. But I don't stop there. I give them the solution to their problem. I show them how to defeat their bullies without anyone else's help and without getting anyone in trouble. However, the taboo against "blaming the victim" is so strong that some people cannot tolerate the idea that the victim is in anyway responsible for what happens to them, even unintentionally.
In our topsy-turvy social climate, there actually is one instance when you can get away with blaming the victim. How do you do this? By calling your victim a "bully." The same mentality that forbids "blaming the victim" is actually responsible for one of the most widespread instances of "victim-blaming" in modern history.
Many recent articles about school violence state that bullies are responsible for most of the violence in schools. Because nearly all of the kids who perpetrated these massacres were victims of bullying, bullies are to blame.
But are "bullies" shooting up their schools? Are bullies going on violent rampages at their workplaces? No! Bullies may not be saints, but the heinous acts of violence are all committed by people acting as victims! A victim believes he is totally innocent and blames his "bullies" for his misery and unfair lot in life. The "innocent" victim believes that his evil bullies deserve to die an agonizing death. Of course, most victims don't carry out their revenge fantasies. They are greater dangers to themselves than to anyone else. But the horrible acts of violence that make the news are all actions of victims trying to pay back their bullies. Yet society is blaming bullies for these actions and not victims! Which, by the way, means you have to be very careful how you treat people. If you develop an image of a bully, someone can kill you and society will declare it was your fault! Now, we no longer blame rape victims for the acts of rapists. Why are we blaming bullies for the violence that victims commit against them? I think it may have to do with confusion caused by the word "victim." This word implies innocence. Once a kid is known as a "victim" of teasing and bullying, he is deemed innocent regardless of what he does, especially since it is now taboo to "blame the victim." Likewise, once a kid is labeled a bully, he continues to be considered guilty even when he is the victim of the victim.
The scary thing is that society is now unwittingly encouraging these revenge fantasies. How? By teaching that we must have no tolerance for bullies - in other words, that bullies have no right to exist! Many "victims" will be more than happy to help us end the existence of bullies. Literally.
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